Mummy Madness – De-stress with Essential Oils

By Kristy Wiggins-Gilbraith

Life can be a real bear at times, and the pep talks from your best friends don’t always take the edge off of the stress you may be experiencing as a busy mum. Let’s face it, when you are in the middle of diaper duty, pumping milk, and feedings, the stress of being mom, as well as wife or girlfriend may feel a bit overwhelming. Stress and anxiety can cause mental and physical effects. According to WebMD stress can cause headaches, upset stomach, and low energy, as well as the inability to focus and poor judgment.
There are several healthy ways to handle stress including exercise, getting adequate sleep, massage, and eating healthy. However, if the aforementioned remedies are easier stated than done, there is still one more option, and that is aromatherapy. The use of essential oils is great for minimizing stress and anxiety because they tap into our parasympathetic nervous system, also known as “rest and digest”. Essential oils trigger our nervous system to relax, and move into a calmer state of being.

Essential Oils for Stress
There are many essential oils used in aromatherapy to address stress, and what you select is determined by how you ultimately want to feel, such as energized and alert or more relaxed. Essential oils can be used alone or mixed with other essential oils to create a synergistic blend. The following are the most popular essential oils for addressing anxiety according

  • Bergamot: Assists in relieving stress and depression accompanied by anxiety.
  • Clary Sage: Relieves stress and exhaustion, which are typically accompanied by anxiety.
  • Lavender: Relieves stress, assists in relaxing and getting to sleep.
  • Patchouli: Assists in relieving fatigue which is associated with stress and anxiety.

As a licensed massage therapist, my personal favorites to use are Neroli, Osmanthus, Lavender, Grapefruit, Bergamot, Rosemary, Rose, Basil, Chamomile and Geranium. I have found these oils to be the best in aiding in relaxation and relieving anxiety.
Using Essential Oils

Essential oils can be placed in a diffuser, on a cotton ball or napkin without diluting. In the case of the cotton ball or napkin you would simply breathe in the essence of the oil through your nose. As with any medication including herbs and essential oils, you should check with your physician if you have any conditions that require medical care including pregnancy before using essential oils directly on your skin.

Clear Blue Skies – Marina Perry-Kuhn


I recently flew from Auckland to an Island just 30 minutes north called “Great Barrier” and no it hasn’t got “reef” on the end.

[Sidebar: I strongly recommend the trip for anyone who loves hiking, nature, and discovering hidden waterfalls.. oh and stairs!  Soooo many stairs!]


Sooo many stairs!

Anyhooo on our return flight the weather had closed in and we were possibly not going to take off, we did however, and the experience of that flight was as powerful and moving as the weekend of adventuring in some of the worlds most beautiful landscape.

Nicky, our Pilot, informed us that due to the poor weather, we would have to fly higher than usual to get above the cloud.

After take off we banked and ascended… it was dark, then grey and wet as we moved through the cloud, but as we broke through the uppermost limits of the clouds was the most beautiful sight … crystal clear blue skies with the setting sun dancing on top of the never-ending puffs of cloud that was acting as a fluffy doona to the sky’s ceiling and suns spotlight.

It was truly breath taking and inspiring. The thought I was most taken with at the time and the lesson I took was something I often talk with my coaching clients about – that the sky is always blue.  Always.

Clouds form above us and we think that the day is dark or rainy, but infact above the cloud the sky is always blue and clear.

So no matter how dark the day can seem due to the clouds (hoping by now you are getting the sense that clouds are just a metaphor for problems, concerns, obstacles, moods… whatever…and that the sky is life) if you chose to think a layer up, it is clear sailing.  Sometimes just waiting it out will have the wind move the clouds to reveal the beautiful sun and sky again.  But even better than waiting it out might be the comfort you gain form truly knowing that regardless of the current movement, actions, circumstance of the “clouds” the sky is always stunningly blue.

It's always blue skies up here!

It’s always blue skies up here!

Often many see what is not permanent or fixed as if it were so, when in fact it can be blown away as easily as clouds, and the best thing about your life is that often the changes in weather (or perspective) are completely in your control and can be created in an instant.  And even when they aren’t and someone else or something else has blonked a big black cloud over your world, just know that above that, is always blue sky… ALWAYS.

Much like problems not being able to be solved with the same approach and perspective with which they were created, so too can it be helpful to start to look at obstacles as malleable and transient objects…. ‘Clouds’ that will eventually pass or that can just transcended by flying higher.

As the year comes to a close I am wishing everyone blue skies and smooth flying …. But even more than a wishing clear blue skies all the time I would rather you gain the awareness that blue skies are not actually a gift to be given, received or build, nor do a lucky few get them – because it always there… and once that’s understood, you have the coolest gift… peace and joy….  and with it optimism, hope and an abundance of opportunity and freedom.

Here’s to the always blue sky xox

Marina Perry-Kuhn

Hope, Hopelessness and Success – Marina Perry-Kuhn

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. I believe the strongest motivator
is HOPE for all of us.

Regardless of whether you are an optimist or a pessimist, or whether
the glass is half full or half empty, hope is the rock that keeps us all
moving forward.

The optimistic hopes for more. More choice, luck, opportunity, love,
connection, appreciation, success, money, freedom, experiences.
The pessimist hopes for less. Less pain, bad luck, fear, judgment,

Of course, we can blend and hope for more love and freedom, and less
fear and rejection… but either way what pulls us forward is hope. Hope
to move further from less, or closer to more.

Some might argue that without hope, we fall into a state of
hopelessness and it is within this state that our survival is at risk. That
without hope and our enduring quest towards it, we have nothing.

So here is a thought about hope and achieving that level of success that
seems to consistently remain elusive for us.

If we hold to the hope of X, what might happen for us if we were to
achieve it? The hope would cease to exist and we would inevitably
create new hopes to hold, but for many it’s possible that your mindset
holds a subconscious thought that without the continual holding of the
pursuant hope, we would have nothing, and in lieu of nothing, we will
instead hold the hope of wanting.

I simply mean to say that many of us do not fear failure, but rather what
the achieving of our goals, hopes and dreams would leave us with.
It would literally release us from our MO of chasing that higher level,
leaving us with what? Nothing… or so our subconscious tells us. As a
result, perhaps we remain always chasing, never achieving because it
keeps us in a place of hope…

Hmmm…. Just something to think about.

M xxx

Good Things Come to Those Who Wait…

By Marina Perry-Kuhn


Good things come to those who wait.



Patience is a virtue.



Rome wasn’t built in a day.

True. Read more

Hard or Easy – Maybe It’s a Choice

By Marina Perry-Kuhn

Have you ever had the thought that losing weight and getting fit is hard? And your experience of it…. Has it been hard?

In life, we constantly seek to prove that which we believe. Sad, but true. We are constantly looking for repeated affirmation of that which we hold to be right. Read more

Excuses, habits and an unkempt house

By Marina Perry-Kuhn

I was walking down stairs last night as I went to bed and had a thought as I passed a pile of toys and a towel on the floor.

I now, after years of living in units and small post war houses with no cupboard space, live in a large modern home. Sure, its no mansion but big enough. I remember all too often in the past proclaiming that when I had a house that offered a place for everything, it would be so easy to be clean and have a tidy home. Read more


By Mairna Perry-Kuhn

People often talk about motivation as if it’s either something you’re born with or not.  Especially in relation to fitness and health.  But this simply isn’t true.  We all function as a result of motivation, some just may not have found how to dial up their motivation mojo yet.

There are two types of motivation, intrinsic and extrinsic. Intrinsic motivation comes from within and occurs when the task is its own reward. Extrinsic motivation is external and involves working to attain an outcome or reward. Often extrinsic motivation get a bad rap… it can be labeled as shallow or coercive in nature.  However I believe that the two types of motivation offer an amazing synergy when used together. Let me explain.

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